100 Ways to Reconnect with Your Spouse

You tied the knot and now you’re struggling to keep the spark alive. It can be frustrating to care for someone so much but feel like you are both drifting apart. It’s amazing what implementing a few of these simple tips will do for you to reconnect with your spouse. There are a wide range of items on this list that are absolutely FREE. Try a few of these out and let me know how well or if they didn’t work for you at all!

Here are 100 ways to reconnect with your spouse:

  1. Go to bed at the same time
  2. Have more sex
  3. Share a long hug
  4. Change your perfume or cologne scent
  5. Share greeting cards and love notes
  6. Share a lingering kiss
  7. Dance together
  8. Share an inside joke
  9. Reminisce about your past
  10. Consult him about big and small things
Reconnect with your spouse: couple dancing together
  1. Text him a naughty message
  2. Connect with a date night interview
  3. Connect with his feelings
  4. Go for a walk together
  5. Thank him
  6. Do a chore for him
  7. Sincere compliments
  8. Greet him when he comes home
  9. Give him a nickname
  10. Cook together
Reconnect with your Spouse: Cook together
  1. Make his favorite dish
  2. Compliment him to your kids
  3. Compliment him to your friends
  4. Take care of his car
  5. Take a class together – learn something new that neither of you has even done before
  6. Go to a concert
  7. Share breakfast in bed
  8. Go to the zoo or aquarium
  9. Watch the sunrise or sunset
  10. Show him where you grew up
Reconnect with your spouse: breakfast in bed
  1. Play Bingo
  2. Whisper in his ear
  3. Send him a compliment by text or email
  4. Text him a thank you
  5. Do something as a team
  6. Kiss at a red light
  7. Candlelight dinner
  8. Make a bucket list together
  9. Share a journal
  10. Asks lots of questions
Reconnect with your spouse: whisper in his ear
  1. Play a game
  2. Watch hilarious TV together
  3. Watch a movie together
  4. Take a shower together
  5. Stargaze
  6. Read a book together
  7. Look at old photos
  8. Make a plan for date night
  9. Have a beer or wine tasting
  10. Ask “What made you feel most loved today?” and listen to his answer
Shower together
  1. Ask how his day went
  2. Hold hands
  3. Ask “What can i do to relieve your stress right now?” and then do it
  4. Share a treat
  5. Write out 10 reasons you love him and give it to him
  6. Flirt by text message
  7. Give each other massages
  8. Turn off your electronics
  9. Exercise together
  10. Tell him that you love him
Reconnect with your Spouse: Give each other massages
  1. Cuddle on the couch
  2. Lay in bed together, just talking
  3. Create a vision board for your future
  4. Go to a bar and dance
  5. Go for a bike ride
  6. Rent a rowboat or canoe
  7. Take dancing lessons
  8. Volunteer together
  9. Visit open houses and dream about your future home
  10. Make him a modern day mix tape – a special playlist of songs that have meaning to both of you
Lay in bed together, just talking
  1. Give him a framed photo for his desk
  2. Send him a story from your shared past
  3. Pray together
  4. Get a babysitter and have a kid-free night out
  5. Set goals together – 1 year, 5 years, 10 years
  6. Cheer him on
  7. Share your struggles and ask for his advise
  8. Start a new tradition
  9. Become regulars somewhere and make it your thing
  10. Roast marshmallows over the stove
Pray together
  1. Share fondue after the kids go to bed
  2. Play video games together
  3. Play a bedroom game
  4. Talk about what you would do if you won the lottery
  5. Look at your wedding photos/video
  6. Paint something together at an art or pottery studio
  7. Have a thrift store challenge – who can make the best outfit for under $5?
  8. Go to a couples’ bible study or have your own at home
  9. Do a puzzle together
  10. Build something together- maybe a new bookshelf?
Play video games together
  1. Leave a surprise note
  2. Run your fingers through their hair
  3. Walk up behind them and give them a quick shoulder massage
  4. Go to a theme park and be kids again
  5. Order Chinese take out
  6. Buy matching bracelets
  7. Fall asleep on the phone together (if you’re going to be in different locations)
  8. Pick out each others’ outfits
  9. Have a paint war
  10. Learn to play a new instrument together

More Resources

Check out these other blog posts to learn more about Symbiotic Relationships, Volatile Relationships, and even 4 ways to improve communication in your relationship. I hope these tips help you reconnect with your spouse!

Reconnect with your spouse: 100 ways to reconnect with your spouse
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(4) Comments

  1. justthegameoflife says:

    I love this! I will definitely look into doing more things off of this list

    1. Jackie Espada says:

      Yes!! Do it!! You deserve it!

  2. This is so important and so helpful!! No matter how long you’ve been together, it’s easy to get swept up by all our responsibilities and commitments. I used to waitress at a sports bar and would get home after midnight most nights. Once I switched to a 9-5 and was able to be home in the evenings, it made such a difference being able to go to bed at the same time!
    I’m so happy that I stumbled upon your blog – here’s to being virtual friends 🙂 xoxo

    Jo |

    1. Jackie Espada says:

      Yes girl!! It makes such a a difference! I’m so glad I found you as well! Virtual friends 🤗 I love it! I’m looking forward to reading more of your content

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